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Permission to Change

Permission to Change

There is a chance of a big life change in the offing for me, and looking for ways to make this change interesting, I began to look at what positive feelings I have about it. And what came up was the ‘clean slate’ idea that change can bring.

I am enormously contented with my life. I am living my Life Purpose of creating connections and relationships, and am continuing to work with with my Life Lesson of ‘Ms. Not Enough.’ But along with this contentment, a deep-down feeling of excitement emerges when I think, “What would it be like to completely start over, with my days empty and my home free of clutter, both ready to be filled solely with things that delight me? To paint more, to have writing time on my schedule, to meet more often with people I love, to volunteer for a cause I believe in?”

And then the answer comes—I can do this right now! I don’t have to wait for someone Change Pin Boardelse to give me permission, or for circumstances to create that space for a new beginning. It is all under my own control, and I can make the choice to create (or recreate) my life to match whatever vision I design.

This is the power of creativity.

What life changes would you like to make?

You do have permission to make them, you know. And if you didn’t think you had it before, rest assured that you have it now!



Palm Reading vs. Hand Analysis

Palm Reading and Hand Analysis – What’s the Difference?

What picture do the words ‘palm reading’ conjure up for you?

If you’re anything like me, you may envision a school carnival, with a tent staffed by a willing mom wearing a turban and lots of jewelry. She examines your hand and tells you when you’ll get married, how many children you’ll have, and how long you’ll live. This sort of palm reading is fun; it’s entertaining, and it generally settles lightly on you.

However, this isn’t hand analysis. While hand analysis does involve looking at the lines in your hands, the structure of your fingers, and your hand shape, it is very specific about looking at your fingerprints. Your fingerprints, which are formed before your birth, contain your life blueprint. They reveal who you are here to be (your life purpose), the life challenges you can expect to encounter as you pursue that purpose (your life lesson), and the filter through which you experience the world (your life school).

There is nothing predictive about hand analysis (except to the extent that, barring a choice to change, you’ll continue to do what you’ve always done). The lines in your Handhands have no predictive power; rather, they reflect what we in the land of hand analysis call your ‘personality psychology.’ You have natural personality traits—e.g., an emotional style, an intellectual style—and you have behavior patterns that are the result of the choices you’ve made throughout your life. Those natural tendencies, and your free-will choices, are displayed in your hands, and there is a specific system for
decoding them.

In contrast, I’ve seen a number of different sources of information on palmistry, from centuries-old to 21st century, and they vary widely. Depending on the reader, you may encounter major variations in interpretation. A palm reader, especially a deeply intuitive or empathic one, may also be inclined to make predictions based on what s/he sees. I wouldn’t presume to judge that process. But it is not hand analysis.

Hand analysis is science-based, objective, and concrete. While every hand analyst brings a degree of interpretation and intuition to the session, the basic life blueprint information you gain from a properly trained and certified hand analyst won’t vary. Your fingerprints have a story to tell, and it is the same story, regardless of who is telling it!


Empty Nest


For many women, the days following the day your last child moves away from home are days of major transition.

I’ve always had ‘my own life,’ and was very determined not to make my children the complete and total center of my universe. I believed that my job was to help them to grow into independent people who would lead their own lives. And as a young adult myself, once upon a time, I knew that when my children did move out, I certainly wouldn’t be at the center of their orbit.Empty Nest Reduced

So I expected that ’empty nest’ would essentially pass me by. 

I was wrong.

The day the last of my children’s major possessions disappeared into a U-Haul truck, and I closed the front door behind her, everything felt eerily quiet. It was a different quiet than the quiet of school hours. I was used to being childless during the day, and for many evenings, and over most weekends. But the door would always bang open eventually, and that youthful energy would permeate the house. Now, those times would be restricted to visits, when we provided the home base for our children’s dates with friends. Which isn’t quite the same.

So I had to do something with this emotion, which had taken me quite by surprise. The first step was to acknowledge it, then share it with my husband, who is a very understanding person. Then, I realized it was an opportunity for me to take a hard look at my life.

My search for my life purpose, which had been hovering in the background for years, came to the forefront. I did a lot of journaling, thinking and praying. While editing an e-zine, I found an article by Ronelle Coburn, a master hand analyst and teacher. Synchronicity?? When I asked her permission to include the article in the e-zine, it was the beginning of a new relationship, and a new journey, for me.

Getting familiar with Ronelle and her work, and eventually training as a hand analyst myself, gave me a fresh start. Time has eased most of the ache of the empty nest; the quiet house has become the ‘normal’ now, and I only experience an occasional, sincere flicker of nostalgic desire for at-home children. But decoding my life purpose, and taking steps to live it, helped me to focus on what’s in the here and now, and what lies ahead. Just as my children are experiencing their own here and now, and what lies ahead for each of them. As it should be!

If you’ve experienced that emotional wallop they call the empty nest, or a similarly challenging transition, what helped you cope?

Being the Prophet

Being the Prophet

After considering how I can categorize and label my family and friends based on ‘knowing them so well,’ I started thinking about how easy it is for them to do the same with me.

It’s hard to drum up the courage to speak up and share the fact that I am a hand analyst. After all, hand analysis can sound a bit esoteric, and my family is anything but. Somewhere deep down, I’m afraid that my family and friends will reject it (and me).

The fear isn’t unfounded—I grew up with a lot of skepticism when it came to anything outside the strict boundaries of what the family viewed as practical and ‘realistic.’ One of my stepfather’s favorite sayings was, “Better to keep your mouth shut and be thought a fool than to open it and remove all doubt.” Amusing, but squelching. OLYMPUS DIGITAL CAMERASo my desire to conform to the norm was molded in childhood.

Now, decades later, it feels safer to stick with the topics of children, grandchildren, homes, taxes or movies than to share something that could put me in the position of, “Who does she think she is, anyway?” So I have avoided those vulnerable conversations.

Since that’s the case, how can my family and friends do anything but categorize me as the mom, the grandma, the wife, the organizer? When have I ever given them the chance to see other aspects of who I really am?

At our next family event, will I be courageous and vulnerable, taking the chance to share something specific about what I do with someone who might be open to hearing it? Taking this chance is a particular challenge for me, because it brings me into a direct confrontation with the Life School aspect of my Soul Psychology—my Life School of Wisdom (after all, I don’t want to look like a fool) and my Life School of Love (I don’t want to chance generating or experiencing feelings that might prove uncomfortable).

How about you? How open and vulnerable are you with your own family and friends? What are the risks, and what are the rewards? And where do you see your own Soul Psychology challenged in the process?